Ep. 29: It’s not loss. It’s alignment.
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In today’s episode, we'll focus on the concept of alignment and how it relates to our perception of loss. Sometimes, when we experience a setback, it's easy to feel like we're losing something important. However, we'll explore the idea that what appears to be a loss can actually be a sign that things are aligning for our benefit.
Through this conversation, we hope to help you detach from the negative emotions associated with loss and embrace the idea that everything is coming together for your greater good.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
What alignment means to us [7:05]
Any loss you experience from speaking your truth isn't loss, its alignment
Things coming together, coming into agreement.
When one door closes, another one opens.
Growth
Showing up for your truth [4:53]
Accountability
There might be heavy losses
Sometimes, we have not been our true selves
Not expressing won’t get get your needs met
Aligning through of speaking up in relationships [13:12]
Doing something out of obligation without desire can be detrimental to a relationship.
Avoiding minor issues in relationships to maintain peace can lead to pent-up resentment over time.
Speaking up in the moment can avoid letting things fester.
Navigating the haze of letting go [17:10]
Learning to let go of the comfortable
Embracing the unexpected
Trusting that better things will come
Navigating the haze of speaking up and losing something [28:43]
Believing that you trust yourself
Anything that is being removed is gonna be replaced with something better
Things have to happen in a way that may not necessarily feel good, but are purpose-driven.
EPISODE QUOTES:
At the end of the day, even though that loss might be a difficult experience, it leads you to something better and leads you to your higher good.
- Shaté Hayes
The universe will present to you what you need, when you're ready to receive it.
- Shaté Hayes
There has to be a dying of something for there to be an emergence of something new.
- Shaté Hayes
Frequently we don't want to let something go without having a replacement.
- Scott Hayes
Not only was I holding myself hostage, and I was holding this other person hostage for whoever their person was, trying to be someone that I wasn't.
- Scott Hayes
There are things that were supposed to happen for us in order for us to have a clear vision and be able to recognize when things are being aligned as well.
- Scott Hayes
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