Ep. 1: Here for the first time.
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Taking the first step towards a new venture or a new season could be crazy scary. But guess what? You have to do it scared.
It takes a great amount of courage to step forward and to be vulnerable. But take comfort in life’s recurring theme that what’s past your fears is always a better, smarter, and stronger version of you.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
Why we struggle with love and life [00:55]
We may have been making this difficult (without realizing it)
Repeating patterns because we don’t have information on how to deal with things
Comparing the live we’re living with others’
Forgetting that healing is a process, and that it has to be taken one step at a time
We’re afraid of being judged and being vulnerable
Finding your calling and taking steps towards it [9:28]
Learning from other mistakes
Walking away from the idea of being a “savior” for others; being there for others (e.g. loved ones) is enough
Starting a ‘passion project’
Evolving your the way you think—thrive instead of survive
Creating and being in a space where everybody has grace towards each other
The haze of taking the first step [21:46]
Worrying about how others perceive you: “What if they don’t like me?”
Finding the courage to move and make choices towards love
Navigating the haze of taking the first step [25:40]
Being in a healthy relationship where there’s support
Moving forward, no matter how scary things could be
Getting out of your comfort show and trusting God
Showing up and giving yourself credit for doing so
Being honest about who you really are
People may like it, people may not, but you do you
EPISODE QUOTES:
I think the recurring theme you'll see in most life is that there's either love or there's fear. And there's a little bit more complicated than that. But either you move and make choices towards love, which is courage, which is even if it doesn't feel good and warm and fuzzy, you either make choices towards love, or you make choices towards fear.
- Shaté Hayes
Fear is the thing that you need to move past. You have to do it scared.
- Shaté Hayes
Sometimes love comes out of the haze, love comes out of difficulty, a better life comes out of things that can sometimes be difficult, but also that everything doesn't have to be as difficult as we always make it.
- Scott Hayes
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