Ep. 16: In the Middle of It.
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Today's conversation is about being in the middle of it all as we navigate through change and evolution with the podcast.
We're excited to share some new and exciting changes with you today. Firstly, we're doing away with seasons and will be having rolling conversations every two weeks. This means that we can continue to have meaningful conversations without any breaks in between. Secondly, we won't be having any seasonal themes. Instead, we'll be having ongoing conversations about everything that comes with navigating through life, relationships, and healing.
Also, we have a new segment on the Love Haze podcast called Black Love Journeys, which explores our physical, emotional and spiritual journeys as a couple. We'll be sharing our personal experiences and insights, as well as inviting some amazing guests to join us on this journey.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
What does it mean to be in the middle of something [2:36]
Having a perfect plan for navigating towards one's purpose can be unrealistic
Healing and personal growth is an ongoing journey, not a destination
Life will continue to happen and may trigger past struggles or insecurities
Accepting being "in the middle of it" and learning to move forward despite challenges is important
Life is a continuous process of evolving, forgiving, and moving forward.
The haze of lack of control [24:18]
The need for control and organization is important for many people, but it can also become a problem.
Feeling out of control can create a sense of uncertainty.
It is not always possible to have complete control over one's environment or emotions.
Letting go of control and learning to adapt to unexpected situations is important for personal growth.
Cultivating a sense of peace, hope, faith, and love can help to navigate through the haze of uncertainty.
Coping with the haze of uncertainty [26:12]
The haze of uncertainty can cause stress and anxiety.
Acknowledge and accept the uncertainty rather than resisting or denying it.
Try to focus on the present moment and take things one day at a time.
Set small goals for themselves to help create a sense of control and accomplishment.
Engaging in activities that bring joy and relaxation can help alleviate stress.
Access support networks and seek professional help if needed.
Finding ways to reframe uncertainty as an opportunity for growth or change can help shift perspective.
EPISODE QUOTES:
I don't necessarily believe that purpose requires or involves some higher calling that people are missing or unaware of, but rather that how they are living their life, the people they are touching, and the impact they are having right now is purposeful, whether they know it or not. We are always in the middle of that process, evolving to the next thing, remembering our wholeness, and forgiving and getting over the same issues over and over again.
- Shaté Hayes
If I'm asking to only never be triggered, and that's the only way that I see healing, then it's a bad thought, just some stinking thinking to believe that my healing rests and about me never being triggered. Your triggers are your triggers. It's about the tools that you have access to, to use when you are triggered.
- Scott Hayes
The people closest to you should either think the same or think higher than you. Having like-minded individuals around you to affirm is crucial and can make a world of difference in your life.
- Shaté Hayes
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