Ep. 25: Be what you need.
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We find this lesson from Eric Roberson’s book “LESSONS, 100 Thoughts on Life & Love” truly fascinating so we’re delighted to explore it in today’s episode.
In this candid conversation, we talk about what happens when you focus on giving to others. Giving can bring us a sense of joy, fulfillment, and purpose that is hard to find elsewhere. When we focus on giving to others, we create a cycle of positivity that can benefit everyone involved. Whether we're giving our time, our resources, or our attention, every act of kindness can make a difference in someone's life.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
Being exactly what you need [00:13]
Having grace for ourselves allows us to be purveyors of grace to others
Learning how to navigate aspects of life and make healthy choices
What goes around comes around [9:57]
Making sure that we are available for people to communicate with easily.
Opening the door for the pivot because at some point, we're going to need the same thing that we're asking for.
Move around, make adjustments
Is giving a selfless act?
Hoping to create a community where people can share, give and help
Doing something without needing or expecting anything in return
Sharing lessons and experiences that can help younger generations
Creating the change we want to see [16:21]
Being mindful of people
Giving yourself and others the space to recover
Being more vulnerable and allowing people to help
What is the haze of being what we need? [19:56]
Giving is sometimes an act of sacrifice
Finding balance and setting appropriate boundaries
Safe spaces are important
EPISODE QUOTES:
If one person is helped as a result of what we're doing, then that is enough.
- Scott Hayes
If you want friends, then you have to find yourself friendly. And I think there's always something that you can glean from being in a relationship with other people that can make you be more thoughtful and more mindful of people.
- Scott Hayes
You might not have the time energy the resource to give, yet you decide you choose to do it anyway.
- Shaté Hayes
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:
LESSONS, 100 Thoughts on Life & Love by Eric Roberson
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