Ep. 24: It’s time to let it go.
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Today, we're gonna talk about letting go. It's a brand new year, and it's the perfect time to usher in new beginnings. Alexandra Elle, the author of After the Rain powerfully affirms and welcomes the ending of all things that have run their course. She no longer holds on to what needs to be released.
By releasing what needs to be let go, we free ourselves to move forward and create space for new opportunities and experiences. We hope we all find the courage to open up ourselves to new experiences, new relationships, and new opportunities that can help us achieve our goals and live a more fulfilling life.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
How to know when to let go of things that need to be released? [2:09]
Feeling stuck and repeating cycles.
We often resist change even when we feel nudged to do something different
Plateaus can be a sign that it's time to make a change.
No growth, challenge and reciprocation
Starting over as frequently as you need to [06:32]
Start over as frequently as needed for personal growth.
We shouldn't commit to routines or behaviors that aren't working, even if it's the beginning of a new year or month.
We should avoid delaying necessary changes and form healthier habits.
Trial and error is acceptable when introducing new behaviors and habits.
Letting go of “Limiting Beliefs” [10:42]
Letting go of limiting beliefs requires a new level of oneself
It can be uncomfortable to let go of comfortability and limiting beliefs
Holding onto shame and limiting beliefs can prevent one from reaching the next level of growth
Let go of things that no longer serve a purpose.
Managing is just a loss [15:25]
Having faith and trust in ourselves
We all love to have a level of control on things
Letting go and learning to trust God and his ways
Freeing up some space for newer things to come in
Knowing when to move forward [29:16]
It's time to move on from a situation or relationship that no longer serves you.
Communicating your decision to leave is a duty to the other person involved, rather than just disappearing without explanation.
Staying in a situation for too long can lead to resentment and hate, which can be avoided by closing the chapter in a respectful and mature manner.
It's possible to move on without hating or dismissing the other person, and communication is key in doing so.
EPISODE QUOTES:
All parts of our system kind of have a way of letting us know that it's time to do something different.
- Scott Hayes
I don't want to just be starting something just and trying to see it through just for the sake of it. That is why I prefer to set intentions so that whatever I choose to do, that intention is embedded through it.
- Shaté Hayes
When you let go of those limiting beliefs and you start to lean into the full power of who you are, then it requires a new level of you. Like some new behaviors, some new thoughts, some new actions on your part, some new things.
- Scott Hayes
I give myself permission to be moving my feet, to put that feet on my faith and get about the business of running my race in my own way.
- Scott Hayes
But what if I had just looked up and enjoyed the city or just lived or took care of myself more or found more joy, found more love, found more of the things that matter in life, how much more would my career pursuit have opened up if I had been that way?
- Shaté Hayes
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:
After the Rain: Gentle Reminders for Healing, Courage, and Self-Love
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