Ep. 23: Loving the old me.
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In this episode, we explore the idea of reconciling with our past selves and giving them the love they deserve. We all have cringe-worthy moments and mistakes from our past that can still haunt us.
But instead of beating ourselves up, we can show love and compassion to those old versions of ourselves. Healing old wounds and mistakes is important not only to heal our current selves but also our past selves. Join us in this discussion on how to love and heal the old you.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
Healing and wholeness [00:41]
Everybody evolves
Closure can be a version of healing
Loving who we become
Loving all parts of ourselves [ 03:42]
Forgiving our past selves
Inner child sometimes shows up and needs acceptance and support.
Triggers can be reminders of a younger version of ourselves that still needs love and acceptance.
Past versions of ourselves can still show up in our current life.
Never leaving words unsaid
How do I approach my past with grace? [11:54]
Forgiveness
Releasing good affirmations: “You are enough”
Hugging yourself when you need to
Knowing that we are in the constant path of evolving to our higher selves
How do we reconcile past versions of ourselves? [24:28]
Journaling can be a helpful tool in this process.
Writing letters to our past versions can be a way to affirm and acknowledge the choices we made in the past
The goal is to figure out what needs to be done to become whole and healed individuals.
The power of forgiving and reconciling with our past selves [28:21]
Forgiving past versions of ourselves and reconciling with our whole selves can give us permission to move to the next level of our lives.
We can fully embrace who we are and use our past experiences as examples to help others.
Our history and past experiences can propel us into our future.
Being honest about our past experiences and recognizing that others have gone through similar things can help us normalize and universalize our struggles.
We can learn from our past experiences and use the lessons to build bridges for others who may be going through similar struggles.
Letting go of shame and embracing forgiveness [34:06]
Moving on and being healed are two different things.
Carrying shame about our past mistakes can hold us back from feeling worthy of moving forward and achieving the things we want.
Guilt can teach us lessons, but shame is a weight we don't need to carry.
It's important to separate our guilt from our sense of worthiness and embrace forgiveness to fully move forward in our lives.
EPISODE QUOTES:
There are those versions of myself, the man who I just celebrated for just taking a chance on me. I didn't know what it was gonna look like, but took a chance on me. It ended up being not the best, but there was an experience that I gleaned from them.
- Scott Hayes
We should not be carrying the weight of shame. Because shame says I'm not worthy of moving forward because of what I'm guilty of.
- Scott Hayes
I believe so dearly in bringing the inner child with us however we can. Because that spirit, that life, that laughter, that joy, that children have, that wonder- who says we have to not have it as adults?
- Shaté Hayes
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