Ep. 34: Keep that same energy.
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What does it mean to keep the same energy? Does doing so take away the grace we’ve been learning to give ourselves and others? How do we find the balance between grace and discipline?
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
To continually give grace or to “keep the same energy” [5:47]
Matching someone’s negative energy also impacts the way you show up
Dealing with repeated behavior of negativity
Reprogramming your automatic thoughts on reciprocity
The moment you expect people to give the same energy as you, you set yourself up for disappointment
Why it’s okay to sometimes match energy [12:47]
Boundary is okay—you owe it to yourself to protect your peace and joy
What you want and need is as important as what others want and need
To match someone’s energy is not always negative, it could also be in your best interest
More than anyone, you need to be graceful with yourself
Why we tend to be hard on ourselves [27:13]
We still need time to heal
The struggle to find the space between grace and discipline
The need to pause and find gratitude
The haze of both sides [31:19]
Our inability to give grace to others but not to ourselves
Acting according to what you believe or who you want to be
Understanding that the energy you put out has to do with what you feel vs. what others feel
Making a choice to show up despite the circumstances
Navigating through the haze [33:35]
Be patient as you continue to know and heal yourself
Don’t be ruled by emotions
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EPISODE QUOTES:
A lot of times when we can't extend grace, it's because we haven't learned how to give it to ourselves.
- Scott Hayes
Earlier in the day, someone said, ‘“Live a life so that when you die, people won't celebrate it.
- Scott Hayes
I am now challenging myself, as part of my own healing and healing and growth, in my exercise of my worthiness, quite honestly, that I am putting boundaries, I'm saying the things even if it might hurt your feelings.
- Shaté Hayes
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