Ep. 42: About shared realities: Do you even know me?
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In this episode, we dive into the concept of "Shared Reality" and its role in social connections, particularly in group trips and family gatherings.
We shed light on the distinction between shared reality and shared values and how understanding and respecting each other's perspectives can help reconcile differences and help us to just enjoy the brevity of the moment. Is there alignment in how you and your loved ones show up in the world?
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Shared reality on group trips [0:30]
A shared sense of reality plays an important role in social connections
Vacation with friends allows for different values, preferences, and habits to come to light
Creating space for people to show up how they choose on vacation can lead to a successful trip and friendship
Friendships are not friction-free and disagreement is expected
Shared realities vs shared values [8:12]
There is a difference between shared reality and shared values as someone can have a value system they struggle to live up to.
In relationships, shared realities are not always the same and it's important to understand that others may have different perspectives.
Reconciling different shared realities requires understanding and respect for each other's experiences.
Boundaries need to be set and respected, especially in situations like travel or events.
How to setup expectations [30:58]
Have conversations before the trip about what each person wants the trip to look like.
Understand everyone's unique circumstances, preferences and lifestyles before planning.
Be mindful of limitations, habits, and tendencies
Accept that people are who they are, and that's okay.
Shared realities in family gatherings [28:00]
The joy of spending time with family and friends despite the challenges of the pandemic.
The sense of togetherness and completion when everyone is present and participating in shared activities.
EPISODE QUOTES:
We are not the same people, as other people are, but we leave room for people to show up in a space that works for them without having to share their exact same reality.
- Scott Hayes
People need to have the freedom to be able to attend to their lives the way that they need to.
- Shaté Hayes
We just have a different reality, we have a different way that we show up in the world and different things that are important.
- Scott Hayes
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