Ep. 43: It’s not you, it’s me.
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Change can bring about friction in relationships, but it's important to remember that this friction is often a result of our own growth and evolution.
Today, we delve into a topic that many of us can relate to - navigating through change and its impact on our relationships. It can be challenging to understand the changes we're going through and how they will affect our relationships, but that's why we're here to talk about it.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
Navigating personal growth and change in relationships [1:29]
Honoring feelings and emotions and giving voice to them
The impact of personal growth on relationships
Balancing the need to assert oneself and maintain relationships
Understanding that personal growth may lead to friction in relationships
Breaking away from a pattern of people-pleasing
Maintaining relationships while undergoing change and personal growth.
Indicators of change in relationships [10:18]
Things that worked before, don't work anymore.
Relationships can change and indicate friction.
Personal growth and life changes can shape individuals differently.
A season of preparation may be needed for a fruitful relationship.
Relationships go through transitions and growth.
The evolution and changing the seasons of relationship [30:58]
The idea of "not everyone can come with you" doesn't mean throwing people away, but rather that everyone can't have a front seat in your life.
Relationships can change as people get older and life gets more complicated
How longevity in relationship happens [22:09]
Being intentional in what we do
Figuring out a way to remain in alignment
Producing for each other in ways that feel good
EPISODE QUOTES:
I guess the only thing that I would not want to change would be those ideals that we have in our core values. Those things that resonate with us the most. We're in this and that we understand that we're going to be people that change.
- Scott Hayes
These transitions and stuff that we're experiencing in relationships is the part of the season where we have to till the ground and where we don't get to see the beauty of it as much, but it's preparing us.
- Scott Hayes
I think it's just friction. It's just things that worked before, don't work anymore. That's how you know something or someone has changed.
- Shaté Hayes
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