Ep. 36: Get free or die trying.
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It's Juneteenth, and there couldn’t have been a more perfect time to talk about something our community holds onto quite dearly—FREEDOM.
Nina Simone said: "I'll tell you what freedom is to me: no fear." It’s a powerful statement that we came to unpack today, among other things:
What does it look like to be our most authentic and best selves?
What does it look like to live, not just exist? To thrive, not just survive?
How do we come alive again?
Come join the conversation. We’d love to hear about your freedom journey.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
What it means to be free [6:38]
Who am I as a person? Am I living my freest version, politics aside?
Am I to the best of my ability?
Are the plans I made for myself going to happen?
Freedom = no fear
Freedom = giving yourself permission to just live and be on the journey
Freedom in action [12:20]
Not being too hard on yourself
Getting rid of self-judgment and self-doubt
Refraining from trying to meet ridiculous standards
The haze of obtaining freedom [22:34]
It’s not something that you achieve; it’s a state of being
The courage to become vulnerable
The inner critic that fosters self-doubt
The difficulty of letting go of the guilt and shame
Navigating through the haze [27:58]
Finding new information (books, therapy, etc.)
Meditation and prayer
Learning to have complete confidence in yourself
Lesson about freedom [32:58]
Freedom is a choice
You can embrace the experience of all your emotions, but don’t be controlled by them
EPISODE QUOTES:
Negative self talk, guilt, shame, not enoughness are probably recurring themes for everyone. You hear more and more people talk about anxiety these days as well, all of that. And I guess, you know, the question would be, what does it look like for us to be free from all of those things?
- Shaté Hayes
Sure, there is some degree of financial freedom that we want and generational wealth, and all of those things. But if I spent all my time just storing it all up and just opted for the safety of the shore, then what have I really left?
- Scott Hayes
I don't want to be a person who withdrew, when things were hard, and gave this ideal that I had this perfect life, or I was this perfect person. Because then when I try to live up to that ideal, I won't give myself permission to have all the things that come on the other side of taking a chance on myself.
- Scott Hayes
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:
Secret Lives of the Super Rich
The Slight Change of Plans - Podcast by Maya Shankar
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