Ep. 4: After the Lesson.
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In this episode, we explore the topic of healing and how it can help us move forward after experiencing a loss or learning a valuable lesson.
Join us as we share insights and stories about the healing journey, both from the perspective of helping others and our own personal experiences. We'll discuss the challenges and triumphs of healing, as well as strategies for seeking support and guidance along the way.
So, whether you're on your own journey of healing or you're interested in helping others in their healing process, this podcast is for you. Let's dive into the world of healing after loss or lesson and discover the power of moving forward together.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
What does healing look like for you? [1:46]
Healing means becoming whole again after experiencing scars and fractures.
We are born with everything we need to operate in the world, but life happens and we need additional resources to cope.
Healing is a process of mending and filling the fractured places with love and lessons learned.
People may be bent by life, but they are not broken spiritually.
Moving forward is an essential part of healing.
Healing is a reminder of who you always were [5:33]
Healing is a reminder of who you always were and what you always had within you.
Restoration is the process of returning to what you already were before the damage.
The goal of healing is not to become something new but to remember and embody your wholeness and worth.
Sometimes life events make us forget our value and worth, leading to feelings of being damaged or broken.
Healing involves making adjustments and moving forward with what you already have within you, rather than focusing on the damage or limitations.
Do you have to make the choice to heal? [7:35]
Healing requires a conscious choice to let go of the comfort of the injury and commit to the healing process.
People can become dependent on their emotional "crutches" because they don't trust the healing process.
It's easier to stay with the crutch than to take the risk of believing the healing is possible.
People may hold on to their emotional crutches, such as not trusting others, to avoid the possibility of being hurt again.
Healing requires taking steps, such as physical therapy, to gradually build trust in the healing process and let go of the crutches.
Navigating the haze of healing [12:54]
The haze refers to the process of moving forward and getting over an injury.
It's not about forgetting that you were injured, but rather about starting to put pressure back on the affected area.
This involves gradually transitioning from assisted movements (e.g. using crutches) to unassisted movements (e.g. walking, running).
It's important to have faith in your ability to heal and to let go of any fear or anxiety about the possibility of re-injury.
Remembering what happened is important, but it shouldn't hold you back from fully embracing your healing and moving forward.
Our choices shape our path [26:12]
Choosing to affirm positive beliefs and affirmations can help us achieve our goals and walk in healing.
Negative beliefs and affirmations can also attract support from those walking in that same direction.
Our daily choices determine the direction we walk in and the type of support we attract.
Walking in healing requires actively choosing positivity and affirmation and finding support from like-minded individuals.
EPISODE QUOTES:
We are born whole into abundance. When we go through life and things happen, it makes us forget our abundance. It makes us operate in the lack for whatever reason, the hurt, the disappointment, the physical pain, emotional pain, spiritual pain. Healing is the thing that has to happen to make us remember our wholeness, our abundance.
- Shaté Hayes
You absolutely have to make a choice to heal.
- Scott Hayes
The number one thing that people want is to feel connected; they want to feel seen.
- Shaté Hayes
Sometimes that fear keeps you safe. It keeps you from experiencing that type of pain or trauma again, but on the flip side, at the same time, it also keeps you from moving forward and growing.
- Shaté Hayes
Healing is also freedom, like, I'm freeing myself from the shackles of this thing that does not serve me anymore.
- Shaté Hayes
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:
‘Damaged Goods’ Series - Michael Todd, Transformation Church
‘Damaged Goods’ - Scott A. Hayes
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