Ep. 61: When self-care just isn’t enough.
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Listen, I don’t know about y’all, but for us, life has been life-ing lately. And it seems like at every turn, we’re pulled in different directions, faced with disappointment, and juggling really full plates. There's so much to process, especially during these transition seasons we find ourselves in.
Navigating adulting has become increasingly challenging. How are we supposed to handle it all when it's taking a toll? Life is filled with transitions, the pandemic aftermath, and the need to prioritize our well-being. It's important to acknowledge our exhaustion and give ourselves grace during these challenging times. Taking care of our mental health becomes even more crucial. So join us as we process how to move forward when self-care just isn't enough.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR
Transitioning back to pre-pandemic normal [3:36]
People navigating life post-pandemic
Finding a new normal outside of the pandemic is difficult and requires navigating regular adult responsibilities.
Saying “No” and Balancing Commitments & Priorities [8:57]
Balancing commitments and being present for various aspects of life is challenging.
Prioritizing one thing often means sacrificing attention to other tasks and responsibilities.
Finding energy for additional projects or responding to messages becomes difficult after focusing on existing commitments.
Struggling to determine whether the workload is a result of taking on too much or simply managing a busy season of life.
Ongoing commitments and responsibilities, such as work, family matters, and personal journeys, require continuous attention and cannot be easily set aside.
Unexpected issues, like financial matters, email overload, and scheduling conflicts, add to the daily challenges and disrupt plans.
Questioning whether busyness and exhaustion are a normal part of adulthood or if expectations differed from the current reality.
Taking care of oneself is IMPORTANT [16:12]
Self-care alone may not always be enough to combat the challenges of adulting and exhaustion.
Engaging in self-care activities that make you feel good, such as getting your nails and hair done, going for acupuncture or massages, and having meaningful conversations, is important but doesn't always eliminate fatigue.
Balancing self-care activities with proper rest and relaxation.
Active self-care, while beneficial, may not be sufficient if baseline rest is neglected.
Neglecting rest can lead to a physical and mental shutdown, highlighting the significance of incorporating rest into overall health.
Navigate the transition into adulthood [23:12]
Taking the moments
Setting boundaries
Navigating self-care during the week
Unlearning to be okay with not being productive.
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EPISODE QUOTES:
It's difficult to spend the time when you're trying to build something.
- Shaté Hayes
By the time I have given all of my energy to the things that I was present for, that I've prioritized, it's like harder to do more.
- Shaté Hayes
I thought of adulthood when I thought of adulthood, I just thought of freedom like I can make my own decisions. Can nobody tell me what to do? I can go where I want to go. Yeah, and that was that but that comes with so much responsibility.
- Shaté Hayes
I think that you encourage yourself to always be on a journey of finding better ways to do better by your body and by yourself. Think also like giving yourself the pushback or like calling out when you're not doing right by your body. And you know, by taking care of yourself.
- Scott Hayes
I have to take care of myself at baseline so I can show up and be the best me that I can be.
- Scott Hayes
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