Ep. 73: Real life, love, and everything in between with Keke Chanel.
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And another one! Here’s another one of the dope Black podcasts we’ve had the pleasure of joining over the past few months: Kickin' It With KeKe: Life, Love, & All That Other SHIT
In this episode, we kick it with KeKe Chanel as we talk about mindset, healing, boundaries, and everything in between. This was such an authentic and transparent conversation about so many of the things that matter most in life. You’re really gonna want to listen to this one all the way through.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
Discussing mindset and personal development [4:59]
Becoming the best and highest version of yourself
Doing interpersonal work on self worth and self esteem
Give people the opportunity to show up for you and be okay if they don’t
Our relationship with ourselves as the basis for how we show up in the world
Our thoughts color how or what shows up in our lives
Should we take things personally? [11:34]
Understanding that everything is personal BUT we don’t have to take it personally
Setting boundaries
Knowing when to walk away
The level of honest communication we should have
Working together to build a team [22:19]
Building a team vs. a partnership
Showing up as a whole person
Building mutual respect and collaboration
Embracing the idea that there is no real leader
Giving yourself grace [31:07]
Talking about our struggles absolutely help—talk to a therapist, a pastor, a friend, anyone
Understanding that our present trauma has something to do with our past trauma
Normalizing having having healthy, effective conversations
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EPISODE QUOTES:
“But I think what has worked for us, and our partnership, has been this idea that there is no real leader. Here. I am head of household, you know, by all biblical standards, but I am not the final say in this household.”
- Scott Hayes
“My grandmother says that one is a whole number. That means that I am whole, he can't complete me. Right? And so I've got to be responsible for my own joy and my own happiness now and peace. And then we together can co create this, you know, life of joy and, and shared happiness and peace and things like that.”
- Shaté Hayes
“For me, there's a part of me that believes that everything is personal. But that I don't have to take it personally. And that can be difficult for people. So what I understand is that everybody is fighting a battle that I don't understand.”
- Scott Hayes
I think that if we continue to have these spaces, our narrative will become normalized of having these healthy, effective conversations, because we communicate all day long. But if it's not effective, and people aren't able to comprehend what's being said, it's ridiculous. It doesn't change anything.
- KeKe Chanel
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:
Listen to People, song by Libianca
Listen to Teach Me, song by Musiq Soulchild
The Four Agreements, book by Don Miguel Ruiz
CHECK IN WITH SCOTT AND SHATÉ:
Spotify Playlist - Music for this moment.
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