Ep. 74: Healing our community with Celeste the Therapist.
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Here’s one more episode from one of the podcasts we’ve had the pleasure of joining over the past few months.
In this episode, we joined forces with Celeste the Therapist and really dug deep on healing the Black community. Traumas, triggers, and even slavery came up on this one. Hard truths and healing revelations, y’all.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
Therapy, religion and suffering [4:24]
Struggling with depression in the church
Long suffering, hellfire and brimstone as badges of honor
The roots of Christianity and slavery
The scarcity mindset
The turning point [7:13]
Personal therapy
Being everything for everyone else
Realizing when your needs change
Black men and mental health [11:23]
How black men have to show up in spaces
The idea that men have to be stoic
Using vices to cover up emotions
Functioning but unable to hold weight
Stuffing feelings away
Racial trauma
The tendency to suffer in silence
Black women and mental health [16:11]
People pleasing and anxiety
Unlearning things as an adult
Reading and learning different perspectives
Physical manifestations of emotional pain
Black women in corporate America [27:28]
Watching your face and reactions as a black woman in corporate America
Having conversations in the workplace about race
The importance of self-advocacy and articulation
Creating The Love Haze [30:38]
A space to speak truth
Having conversations no one was having
Guilt vs. shame
Figuring out the art of transition
The struggle to begin [39:19]
Making choices towards who you’re trying to become
Accepting fear and evolving from it
Seeing yourself as something other than what you are currently
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EPISODE QUOTES:
“Well, because like we are, we are often taught in our community, the version of Christianity that slave owners taught their slaves to keep them submissive and subservient. And so it is, you know, hold on, you know, follow your master do good work. And then the sweet by and by, you'll get your reward.”
- Shaté Hayes
“And it promotes that, that kind of scarcity mindset, like, you know, like Shate said, a blessing is coming in the sweet by and by you'll get it when you get to heaven. And it's just not how I live my life in my right now..”
- Scott Hayes
“It was actually when I began going through my divorce. And I realized in the process of starting my own therapy journey at that time, that I really had this mindset that I was supposed to be this thing for everybody else, and that my happiness should come when other people are happy as a result of what I do.”
- Scott Hayes
“I think sometimes if as people are growing, and there has been maybe hurt or pain, especially if you're in relationships. If you're not working on growth together, there’s going to be this imbalance, which you guys spoke about on your last podcast, when things aren't balanced in a relationship, something's not gonna work out.”
- Celeste the therapist
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:
Listen to Black Folk, song by Tank and The Bangas
CHECK IN WITH SCOTT AND SHATÉ:
Spotify Playlist - Music for this moment.
Follow @iamshate on Instagram
Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on Instagram
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